A common misconception is that elegance is acquired after one becomes wealthy/ or is wealthy. That is simply not true. In this article, I share qualities of elegant ladies which have nothing to do with money, and more to do with their personality, behavior and mannerisms. I should add though, that no one is perfect, and that is good news because through daily practice, most ladies can refine these traits and embody the elegance they so often admire in other elegant women.
- Elegant ladies keep their word, thus ensuring their social capital stays intact.
Elegant ladies grasp the value of reputation; therefore, they keep their word. They only commit to things they know they can/will do.
It is common knowledge that those who do not keep their word are seen as unreliable, dishonest and social pariahs.
- Elegant ladies don’t use vulgar language
While pop culture encourages the use of words like (pardon me) shit, bitch, fuck etc, these words may look cool but they are far from classy.
Elegant ladies steer clear of such speech. They maintain their composure in instances of frustration or unexpected events.
- They are not loud and aggressive, and they wait their turn to speak
Ever had a conversation with a loud aggressive person who dominated the conversation?How did that make you feel?
Elegant ladies are self aware, thus they speak softly, with clarity and without haste; they always wait their turn.
- Elegant ladies have a confident gait, and they also sit up straight
You can easily pick out an elegant woman from a crowd; she walks with confidence, with her back straight, and her shoulders back.
Slouching and walking with the head held down are complete no-no’s; they make someone look timid & unsure.
- Elegant ladies don’t use their phones during one-on- one’s or during dinner
In person conversations and dinner/meal times are times to focus on those we are with instead of getting lost in the online world of apps and social media.
Elegant women know this; they put their phones away and enjoy being fully present.
- Elegant women are punctual, & always bring the host/hostess a gift
Elegant ladies are never the first to arrive at parties or social gatherings, but they are punctual. They are also not the last to leave; they don’t overstay their visit.
They also bring the hostess/ host a gift. They understand social etiquette.
- They don’t gush over compliments & they don’t over-explain themselves
Elegant ladies know they look good, and are aware of their admirable qualities, so they accept compliments with grace and swiftly move on to the next thing.
They also don’t over explain themselves; a quality often witnessed in women who are not confident.
Which of these is your favorite?