Elegance Handbook

3 Intrusive Questions & Comments To Avoid

The truth is not everything about a person’s life is up for discussion for as many reasons as there are people. An individual could be suffering from the very thing you’re asking about – such as why they aren’t in a relationship or why they don’t have children yet. Or they simply will find you ill-mannered for asking and be put off by your questions about such topics as how they spend their money. While some may not mind, others may be terribly put off.

It’s better to avoid asking such questions or making certain remarks altogether. Otherwise, it’s like playing social Russian Roulette, and is the quickest way to ruin your social capital by rubbing others the wrong way using your words.

How to Avoid Upsetting and Putting Off Others in Conversation

Do you want to avoid upsetting others in conversation without meaning to? A mistake that is often made when getting to know someone or even in long-term relations is thinking that the fewer the boundaries, the more they will like you or be open or more intimate with you.

These questions and comments may appear harmless, but they can offend or hurt others deeply. Asking these personal, intrusive questions creates awkward silences, responses, or situations, which register as unpleasant experiences and injure your likeability.  In short, watch what you say and how you say it. Don’t close your own doors.

(1) Intrusive Questions & Comments About Money That Is Not Yours

Avoid asking intrusive money questions; this could be about one’s wealth or income, their personal expenses, or how much items cost. If you are not the one financing, such remarks often rub people the wrong way.

(2) Intrusive Questions & Comments About Body Image 

Comments and questions about an individual’s diet, weight, cosmetic surgery, hair (and hair extensions), and so on should be avoided. Let others willingly volunteer this information if they so wish.

(3) Intrusive Questions & Comments About Relationships and Family Life

“Why are you single? When are you going to get married/engaged? When are you going to have a baby? Are you pregnant?” Details about an individual’s intimate life are simply that, intimate. Respect their privacy.

Since you’ll get more from your level-up journey into a better lifestyle through networking, which means you have to become great at making conversation, I have previously shared other posts to help you along the way and they include how to speak with class.