If this is your first time here, hi, I’m Daisy. I am the founder of Elegance Handbook. A platform that since May 2020, has touched the lives of 55,000+ women worldwide in matters elegance and femininity. And here’s my story about rediscovering my femininity.
I have always been leveling up in some way or other. However, things took a turn for the better in 2016. In 2015, a budding relationship with a high-value man came to a surprising halt. Looking back, I realize was not prepared for someone like him. He treated me well, took me out on amazing dates, and was emotionally available – but I needed to evolve to become a high-value woman myself. (This was despite the fact that I excelled academically and professionally – being book smart is not the same as being life smart.) In the year that followed the heartbreak (2016), life gave me a chance to start my femininity and elegance journey and I took up the challenge.
The thing that made me TRULY start my femininity journey was exhaustion. (Take note, all emotions/feelings communicate something important). Strangely enough, one evening after work, I came home & looked in the mirror. The lady who looked back was worn out because she hardly had enough time for self care. I was working on a multi-million residential project as a civil engineer, and I thought I would be happy with everything in my life because for one, I was better off than some of my peers, and two, my career was on track. But, no, I wasn’t. The second thing is that at that time, there was a guy I liked, but he liked my friend instead who was always well groomed & dressed up (she was a civil engineer too). This was the 3rd time this had happened to me… first in high school, and then in university and now while I was working; that the guy I liked someone else. I searched within myself & the common thread was I’d thought my academic or work accomplishments would make me a far better choice.
What did these ladies have in common? Feminine grace & feminine way of dressing, and they weren’t desperate (while I dressed up casually and I liked to get into heated debates with guys & price I was smarter or that whatever they could do, so could I, and without knowing, was in a way auditioning).
First thing that I started changing was my way of dressing – it’s the easier place to start for some – I bought more dresses, skirts, feminine tops etc. I did an entire overhaul of my wardrobe. I also started taking self-care and grooming more seriously. I remember once I went on a date with a guy, back in 2017, and more than half the date I was saying how I don’t need a man.. etc needless to say there was never a second date. I still had more to learn. It was around this time, that while visiting a friend in mid-2017, I stumbled upon the Art of Seduction by Robert Greene, It belonged to her husband, who lent it to me.