Elegance Handbook

How to Speak With Class

A key skill that you need as you level up is the art of communicating in a way that helps you build your personal brand, build your social capital, and establish an excellent rapport that will help you advance your goals and make your life pleasant. We all know that your network greatly influences your net worth, and it is often not about what you know, but who you know. 

That said, if you have already worked on your style and refined your femininity, the next thing to focus and hone in on is improving your communication skills. 

Your words allow other people to understand what’s on your mind; if you want to be held in high regard, refine your speech. Knowing how to navigate diverse conversations with others in a respectful, classy way, and how to build connections and maintain rapport is a skill that will open many doors for you and also create your social capital.

What are some of the ways you can refine your speech?

  • Use proper grammar and avoid slang. Do not use curse words. Slang, cursing, vulgar words, and lewd sexual jokes do not work in your favor. Avoid vulgar remarks and derogatory sexual talk even as a joke.
  • Eliminate filler words such as “so”, “like”, “basically”, “actually”, etc. These filler words show you’re thinking on your feet. Think about what you want to say before you start speaking.
  • Avoid name-dropping as a way to impress others. This not only offends others but gives you bad social credit as well. Nobody feels like they respect you when you’re name-dropping. It shows you place more value on a celebrity or family name than on the individuals themselves. 
  • Avoid asking intrusive questions about personal matters such as relationship details and wealth. This is in very bad taste and is covered in detail below. 
  • Avoid bragging about what you are wearing, where you went, what so-and-so gave you, etc. Bragging only goes to show that you are proud and obnoxious, and probably not even used to the things you are bragging about. It shows you attach your sense of worth to things, people, and places, which is not a trait of high-value individuals.